How to attract men by fine-tuning and being aware of your physical appearance - Part 1: Your body (section 1)

How to attract men by fine-tuning and
being aware of your physical appearance

Being a woman, in the first place you are basically an object of desire for the men who are around you all day and every day. You are a lot more then that, but since this dating guide for women is about just that, I’ll just keep it subject related here. Being an object of desire for men is something we can discuss in great length, whether it’s just and fair or not... yet that won’t make much of a difference, fact is that it’s just the way it is, we live in a male-dominant society and whether you accept it or not, as a women you stay that object of desire whether you want to or not.

So rather then to look at the negative side, as a women you may want to focus on the good things this can bring you instead. Basically it can empower you a lot, making use of the male weakness of their concepts and approach towards their female counterparts.

Now what can you do to exploit this situation to end up with the most benefit for yourself? In a nutshell it’s all about what you have to offer and how you present yourself. You are not alone in the market for a good man, and competition is usually very fears. In this first part we’ll look at how your body affects your popularity with men and what you can do with your body to enhance your popularity.

How do you look, walk, talk, smile, interact and more. How does it affect the impression you make on men? How to shape your behavior to attract the right men? There has been a lot of research conducted around these kind of questions. And in many of tghese studies it becomes clear that the first and foremost focal point of men looking at a woman is the face, the body shape, the breasts and bum while the alpha-dominant men have a very specific, slightly different way of looking at a woman. I’m going to address this in more detail for eacgh subject further below for those of you who want to attract the dominant type of man.

Your face, first impression counts the most!

Your face shows who you are. Even yourself as well judge people in first instance on facial appearance, that’s human nature. To look good you spend a lot of time on your facial skin, your lips, teeth, hair and eyebrows. Makeup and hairstyle probably plays a big part in your life and determines a great deal of your look. Makeup especially, such as lipstick, rouge and mascara, exist with a primary goal to make women look more sexually attractive: it makes you appear like blushing, your lips red, moist and full, your eyes shine...

TIP: When you apply makeup with the goal to attract men, don’t go too much over the top with unnatural colors and hard lines. You may once in a blue moon want to include a little bit of irony or fun, but make it an exception rather then occasional.

Your hair, not only an important assett to you!

Traditionally, women wear their hair long. It gives the most feminine impression, but this doesn’t mean that a shorter hair style is not-done per definition. But generally speaking long hair is still most attractive to men. It lets them imagine grabbing and pulling your hair as they would do during sex, which makes men very excited.

Healthy and beautiful hair is extremely important for women, and for men who love to see beautiful women. Does your hair shine? Is it thick and strong or slim and weak... There's a lot you can do to boost the health and beauty of your hair! Wanna know more? Read another of my posts: 11 secret tricks to get healthy and beautifull hair!

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Let a man observe your face

If you want to attract a man with your facial appearance, then as well give him a chance to look at it. This means that you shouldn’t look him into the eyes the entire time so that he will also be able to have a good look at the various beautiful features your face has to offer. A good way of doing this is to make eye-contact with him for about 5 seconds every half minute orso. You don’t need to count this out, it’s just a directive. Look into his eyes, then lower your focus to his lips if he’s talking or other parts of his face or body when you do the talking. The regular eye-contact gives him the feeling he has your full attention while the looking away releases pressure and gives him a chance to observe you. Looking down also gives a man a signal that you are willing to be somewhat submissive to him.

TIP: Your first look, whether you look him in the eyes or at some other part of his body, is absolutely the foremost important. The very first impression a men gets of you is partly based on that single first look at him and will stay in his mind for a long time!

Your body shape and posture

Perfect hourglass body shape,
perfect posture

Your face and body may be very attractive to men, but if your posture isn’t very attracting the rest also doesn’t quite add up. Body shape is more then just having the right weight and ratios, it also includes the way your body presents itself while standing, walking, sitting, etcetera. Is your posture feminine enough to attract men? Is it elegant and styleful? This is something you can learn! Look around you, watch how other women present themselves. Take the good ones as an exa,ple to create your own attractive postures.

TIP: When you’re in a standing position, keep your back and neck in a straight line, pull your shoulders a little bit backwards and tilt your pelvis / hips in a way that your bum can show itself.

 TIP: When you walk, then place your feet straight in front of each other as if you’re walking on a line. This lets your hips move in a cradling motion

TIP: When you sit, don’t cross your legs, rather place your feet next to each other and make sure your knees don’t touch each other.

TIP: Practice these guidelines on continued basis, even when you’re alone! For one it will turn into something automatic, and for another reason, what if suddenly that man you like so much enters the room... Train yourself to present a perfect posture at all times!

Your breasts

Many women question themselves whether their breasts might be too small or too big, or even not fully similar in shape or size. Actually in most cases these are not very important issues at all. All breasts are beautiful, no matter is you have B, C, D or E cup, perky breasts or not, regular nipples or puffy... Most important for your breasts is that they keep their good shape. Men don’t like “hanging breasts”.

How to use your boobs to attract men

By doing the right exercises and after showering spraying one extra round of cold (not too cold) water over your breasts you can make sure that your breasts keep their beautiful shape year in year out. Wear shirts, tops and blouses that make your breasts look good. If your breasts are firm enough, you can sometimes leave your bra in the drawer. Showing the top of your breasts is good, but don’t make it look slutty. When a man can see a little too much of your breasts when you bend down, always make it look like accidental. If it looks like you’re showing your jewels somewhat purposely it may come across like too slutty.

Stiff nipples always make men excited. It lets them know you are excited as well which in effect turns them on. You can make your nipples more sensitive so that they turn hard and stiff more often. You can make your nipples more sensitive by paying more attention to them while masturbating. Play with your nipples more often, squeeze them, suck on them, touch them lightly with the tips of your fingers or tongue, and the more you let them get hard and stiff, the more sensitive they become as well.

EXTRA: Alpha-dominant men are usually attracted only in secondary manner to breasts, they feel other things are more important. This is because an overly focussed mind on breasts expresses a somewhat immature sexual thinking as breasts are naturally and first of all associated with motherly feelings. Alpha dominant men are more interested in a women’s bum, hips, face and overall body shape.

Your bum

For most men a real big object of desire is a women’s bum, or how we often call it, your ass, butt or booty. A firmly shaped ass represents a truly feminine shape to men. They usually fall for firm, round and wide.

Most men love a women's ass
round, full and wide

When we talk about the ass, the hips are included in this subject as well. Your bum and hips complete each other and they are so much connected that they are often seen as one. You can do certain exercises to make your ass / hips / thighs more firm, round andwider (click the link).

For men, a woman’s ass is the only visible reference they have to your cunt, which is for them the most desirable of all. Even when you’re standing naked, your pussy is not, or only a little bit visible to them because it’s actually mainly not located at the fron but at the back of your body. And because of this visual reference, nature made women walk with a slight cradling movement in the hips.

As I already referred to, just like your breasts, your bum should be firm and round, no man likes a flat behind. Although there are men who fancy small hips and small bums, most of them (according to a recent study 73%) prefer round and wide hips / ass. But even if you have a small sized butt, if you makes sure it’s firm and round there shouldn't be much of a problem. As long as you’re not showing a flat bum you’re safe.

TIP: If you want your bum to be more round and full, don’t go on a diet but instead do more physical exercise / fitness. A good looking firm has less fat and more muscle!

By choosing the right skirts, dresses and leggings / trousers you have a good opportunity to show off your sexy ass. Additionally, there are several “butt bra’s” on the market which you wear underneath your clothing in order to “lift” your bum. Try not to wear long, wide sweaters that cover (part of) your bum and choose jeans and other trouysers which are tight around your butt instead of wider ones. For skinny jeans you really need the right figure, but tightness around your ass is really a must!

So show off what you got! Especially when you dance, your bum is your most valuable asset, but also at other moments you should keep your butt at the forefront of everything you do! At certain times you can even accentuate your bum, for instance by placing one or two hands spontaneously on your ass on in the back pocket of your jeans.

Keep the skin of your bum soft and smooth and when you shave your pussy, don’t forget to also clear the areas around your anus from any hair. Any body hair apart from your head, eye brows and cilia is for most men considered to be very un-feminine. They love a woman’s skin soft, tender and hairless.

Your pussy

As I referred to in the previous paragraph, your pussy is actually located on the back of your body and not at the front side. Long ago, the Roman-Catholic church (as well as Islam) made a law that stated that all other sexual positions apart from the missionary sex position were unlawful and forbidden. They would refer to how animals have intercourse and as the human race stands high above all animals being the mortal similitude of God, the church believed that we should only have intercourse this way. And so have we come to believe that the female vagina is located at the front, while instead it’s really at the backside of the body. In fact, in the time of Jesus it was even considered very strange and uncommon to have sex in the position we now call missionary position.

The one thing that is located at the front is your clitoris, which in fact is the female version of a penis. The little spot you can see and feel is actually just a little part of your clitoris, most of it is located inside. A mere one-third is located on the outside. As the clitoris is considered an “extra” and doesn’t have a vital function, the actual “vagina” has been medically pinpointed in full at the backside of your body.

If your looking for an Alpha-dominant man, which is the case for most women, you should bare in mind that they like women who are intelligent and mentally developed, elegant and stylish in behaviour and a wild animal between the sheets!

For men, the single most important thing in life is sex, and if you learn to think from that perspective you’ll also gain a lot more attention from men. The clothing you wear, the things you say and the way you say things, your body language, everything can be a tool to get attention from a man once you sexualize it a bit.

TIP: A lot of men love women who add something extra to their most sexual female body part such as a tattoo or a clit piercing. It turns them on like a space rocket ready to take off!

This was part 1 in a series of three parts about how you can use your physical appearance to attract men. Please stay and read the remaining parts as well!