How to survive after being dumped

No more calls from him anymore... no more reply's to your texts... no more seeing each other... and what's the most difficult to deal with, no more kissing, hugging, cuddling, simply being together and having fun...

It's all over, the one guy you cared for so much is now not yours anymore. Although you feel like you are still his girl... But he found another one, or just walked without any reason at all, at least not one you are able to understand!

Everything happens at the same time in your head, like an emotional rollercoaster. You feel angry at him but you love him at the same time... You feel sad and heartbroken but there's also that little bit of left-over hope that the two of you still can work it out and hopefully get back together.

But the real truth is... that's not gonna happen. You know it but somehow your mind doesn't match your heart and you're not willing to accept any of that! How can I accept it to be over? That would mean I don't care about him at all, right?! But I DO care and I DO want him back and I DO DO DO everything to get him back!!

But if you are really brave enough to face a couple of truths you would find out that there are in fact only two options for you. You can either lay around and be a pathetic heartbroken victim of love, (which I've done a couple of those in my life) or you can start to move on, try to start accepting that his love for you is not gone but changed into something different then being your boyfriend.

If you're ready to choose the last option (which is probably the wisest thing to do) I will give you some very helpful tips that guide you though survival after being dumped.



Allow yourself time to feel sad

You gave your heart and soul to this guy, so it makes sense for you to be sad and emotional over the whole breakup thing. And you have the fullest right to be! So go ahead, eat a carton of Hagendasch for a few days. Invite your BFF over and watch a movie called The Notebook. Cry... cry... and CrY!!! Let it all out, don't spare a tear, scream if you want...

This is all part of the natural process of acceptance. When someone you care for dies, you do it... when someone you deeply love leaves you, something inside of you dies as well. And the feeling is no different at all!

Stop Texting Him

He ended the two of you, so if you start blowing up his messages inbox every day with texts and begging him to pleeeeaaaseeee take you back (please please PLEASEEE?), it’s really not going to help you ibn any way, in fact it only makes things worse. Don’t send him every cute photo you've taken together, don’t quote every promise that he made (and broke) because it really really REALLY won’t help. It’s only going to push him even further away from you!

Stay away from his Facebook and Twitter

So you want to know what he’s up to, who he talks about, where he goes, what's on his mind... So what you're busy with all day long is shifting screens back and forth from his Facebook to his Twitter, to his Instagram, to his Google+... (How nice would it be if you had his Gmail password). For entire hours in a row you're only refreshing his social stream, hoping to find out ANYTHING... especially about you OR some other girl...

WRONG!!! Don't do it!!! Sooner or later you’re going to see something you don’t want to see, and it’s going to make you even more sad, or mad, or both. You need a serious break from seeing everything he’s posting, for your own good. Don’t look at it, don’t ask his buddies about him, don’t stalk him and don't dance with the devil.

Don't try to be his best friend

Okay, fair enough... when you're in a relationship your boyfriend becomes your best friend, your confidante, your partner in crime. And the last thing you want to happen is to breakup. At a certain point soon after the two of you break up, you probably feel like you need to safe whatever you still can have. Although it's not a relationship, let it still be best friends then...(and who know's, maybe...)

You try to to keep hanging out, and talk to him all the time. You tell him you want to be to be “best friends”, but what you really want is for him to realize he made a huge mistake.

N E W S F L A S H

Not gonna work! He will be able to move on, but will you when it gets clear that it stays like that and not more? Make no mistake.Give yourself space to move on. Because really, if he broke off with you, he doesn't deserve you- You are worth so much more than that! Respect and value yourself enough to let your emotions for him fade away.Somewhere out there is a bloke who will love you more than you can imagine! Be strong, and move on.